Oct 22

Discussion for November - Own your behavious, Master your Communication, Determin your Success

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Take a look at this TED talk below and answer the questions. Join in our discussion when you can.

 

 

Own Your Behaviours, Master Your Communication, Determine Your Success | Louise Evans

 

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1. Can you see how the way you behave/react in different situations, may have an impact on what you can achieve in your school library?

I think it is really interesting to watch Louise talk about the situation with her step daughter. I can easily see how reacting without thinking would have changed the relationship significantly. However it is not always easy to see this in yourself, especially if you are like me and react quickly to situations. However I do see that if I stepped back sometimes I would perhaps make different decisions. I do know that I have sometimes had to go back and apologise and agree to change my mind on a decision just because I reacted too quickly.

 

I think this TED talk is a great reminder of how we react without thinking and the impact it can have.

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I agree completely with you here, Elizabeth. I can think of a number of occasions when I reacted too quickly in situations involving pupil behaviour when I was a new school librarian! This kind of mistake can have long lasting consequences for the librarian's relationship with individual pupils and with whole classes. I learned that it's really important to understand the situation before reacting.

@bathgatew you are so right! Making a good impression as the school librarian is so important. Our first reaction to someone can taint their opinion of us and determine whether they ever set foot in the school library again. It is a fine line and taking a step back may just make all the difference. I do think that there is something in the saying 'count to 10' before replying in a difficult conversation. It just gives your brain a chance to think of other ways to react to whatever situation you are in. I must start practicing this myself...

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2. Can you think of a situation (without naming anyone) where you may have achieved something better if you had reacted differently?

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I now realise that this is a very difficult question to answer. I was in a rush when I wrote these questions this morning and maybe if I had thought about them longer I would have come up with something better than this.

 

What would your question have been about this TED talk?

 

@Elizabeth This is a difficult one! Perhaps it would be easier for most of us to talk about the behaviours we've observed in colleagues. I found that as a school librarian I had the opportunity to observe a wide range of behaviours among teaching staff. Because I was outside the teaching hierarchy I would often find myself on the receiving end of confidences from staff who were finding things difficult. I learned a lot from this informal aspect of the role.

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@bathgatew Yes Wendy (Just found your name on twitter!) observing others and being a confidant is something we get the opportunity to do more than most. When you are in a stressful situation and can find someone to talk to, to get a different perspective can really be helpful. I think this side of a school librarians job can sometimes get overlooked and really can help with our own wellbeing and mental health too. Understanding others is important in a school library.

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3. Interestingly, Louise Evans said that when she uses this talk in a business setting the Hedgehog chair is the one that is usually left out. Would you say that this is true as a school librarian?

I would say that most school librarians are hedgehogs with a little Giraffe in there too. It would, however, be lovely to see more Dolphins. Louise describes dolphins as "knowing what we want and create our boundaries and we are very powerful. We grow and are free". Hopefully, these discussions are helping us all towards this.

@Elizabeth I too have observed a lot of hedgehog behaviour among school librarians! I've also seen meercats and giraffes! As you say, it would be great to see more dolphin behaviour. I think the hedgehog behaviour might be a consequence of isolation and insecurity for many school librarians. Hopefully with more opportunities for connection and better recognition for the role, this behaviour will become less common.

@bathgatew I agree! Being a lone librarian in a school can be challenging. It is very difficult to shout about what you can do especially if it does not come naturally. What I have found is that the more you talk about what you do the easier it gets and generally the reaction is very positive. Connecting with other in the same position is definitely important. Hopefully this discussion forum goes a little way to achieving that.

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4. Did you enjoy this TED talk? Do you think it is useful to listen to this type of talk occasionally?

I did enjoy this talk very much! I think it's always useful to look at human behaviour because interaction with people is really what our jobs are all about; if we do this well we can achieve much better results. Examining our own behaviours can help us to avoid making the same mistakes over and over again.

Totally agree! Looking at human behaviour is very important. I think it’s also good for our own wellbeing too.

I really enjoyed this talk (I love TED talks). As Louise said, these are things that are not taught at school. Yes, we are taught how to collaborate or work in teams but these little nuances are what would make a world of difference in our success.... or even finding the confidence to speak up.

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I found the whole video really interesting and important. I sincerely believe that the way the librarian behaves is inextricably linked to the behaviour you receive back. Keeping communication going, not pouncing or being judgmental, searching for reasons why students are doing things and giving them boundaries all become tools of the trade once you start practicing them. As you say it leaks into life outside school too - I just wish politicians would embrace a few of these ideas.

Thanks for joining in @Wendy Harty I agree how we communicate in the school library setting is so important. Leading by example is the phrase I like to use the most and especially with how we talk to students and teachers.

Thanks for sharing a great TED talk, @Elizabeth. Plenty of food for thought and some concrete tips for changing our reactions and responses to conversations around us. Specially conversations that have negative undertones re a library's purpose or its importance. This talk will help me to better understand the other person's mode as well not just my own.

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